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Dr. Anne Marie Evers has been regularly hosting The Dr. Anne Marie Evers Show every Saturday from 12:00 noon-1:00 pm. Pacific Standard Time.
Dr. Anne Marie Evers is a Best Selling Author of many books, numerous e-books Cards of Life, and Affirmation Booklets on the power of Affirmations. She is an Ordained Minister and Doctor of Divinity. She is co-author of Wake Up and Live the Life you Love in Spirit with Dr. Deepak Chopra and Dr. Wayne Dyer. Dr. Evers is an International Motivational Speaker and Talk Show Host. Her latest book, Affirmations Your Passport to Happiness is in its 8th printing and available also on www.amazon.com. She has created the popular Cards of Life. (www.cardsoflife.com). Dr. Evers has been teaching the power of Affirmations and helping people for many years. She believes that Affirmations When Properly Done Always Work!
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Dr. Evers invites readers/listeners to contact her if they have an interesting, informative and uplifting story and/or information to share on Affirmations, Thoughts, Mind Power, Creative Visualization, Forgiveness, Gratitude, Positive Thinking and other related topics.
One of her regular topics on the weekly Dr. Anne Marie Evers Show is that the first 15 minutes is devoted to sharing stories about Random Acts of Kindness with her Random Acts of Kindness Roving Reporter, Joyanna Anthony. Then 15 minutes is spent on teaching and discussing Affirmation Tools, methods and Affirmations that people can put into effect immediately. These Affirmation Tools are simple, proven and very powerful. The next 25 or so minutes she speaks with her main guest.
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Dear Dr. Evers Thank you, thank you, thank you for all you do. I listen to you every morning on my ipod. I have all your archived shows downloaded and every morning I head out for my walk and take you with me. Some mornings I don’t feel like walking but I make myself and by the time I get home I am in a fantastic mood and ready to face my day. Again Dr. Evers thank you so very much for being such a driving force in my world and in many others as well. With much Love , Peace and Joy. Kimberly M. Powell River, Canada
Good Saturday to you Dr. Anne Marie Evers I wanted to thank you so much for your radio show. It is a wonderful show and I so appreciate how you tie important reflections about how your own Affirmations that have worked for you in with the guest and his or her information.Thank you for your 11PM prayers for Peace, etc. that you inspire people to do with you every night. I am also joining in with you. Many Blessings of Peace and Abundance. Marilyn, Spokane, WA
Random Acts of Kindness I really love your Dr. Anne Marie Evers Show on Contact Talk Radio. I also enjoy listening to your Random Acts of Kindness. They are very uplifting. They have made me more aware that even the smallest acts of kindness are also important. Please keep up your fantastic work! Lisa, a devoted listener
Your Internet Shows are Very Inspiring I just wanted to say how very much I enjoy your show on the Internet every Saturday morning. You always give us, the listeners some valuable, important and positive things to think about. I also think your guests are very suitable for your type of uplifting shows. Saturday Shopping always has to wait until after your show is over. All the best to you! Christine, Seattle, WA
Hello Anne Marie Thank you again for the great interview. Zlatia told me that you are a true master as she was quite uncomfortable before the interview and completely relaxed after it. D. Nevin
Your Show has Changed my Life With the wonderful Affirmation Tools that your so freely share with your listeners my whole life has changed. I needed to sell my car and I did an Affirmation to sell it exactly as you taught us over the Internet. The Affirmation came true exactly to the letter. Now that i have the formula I know I can do Affirmations for whatever I choose. Your section on Random Acts of Kindness really brings kindness to our attention. Your wonderful, uplifting work is much appreciated. Nicole, Happy Listener
Words of Appreciation for having Dr. Betty Kovacs as My Guest Thank you for inviting Dr. Betty Kovacs to be your guest on the Dr. Anne Marie Evers Show. Betty remarked to me after the show that you are a terrific interviewer. I also very much enjoyed the show. I wish you continued success! Kimberly S. Director
Dear Anne Marie Evers I had a great time on your show. You are an Amazing Radio Host. I am sure you have a BIG following. I am looking forward to have you on my show. Take care for now. Frankie
Words from Luanne a Dr. Anne Marie Evers Show Listener I love listening to your radio program. I usually download the show and listen to it on the podcasts. I have read your book, Affirmations Your Passport to Happiness and thoroughly enjoy it. I have now incorporated Affirmations into my daily like thanks to you and they have changes my life in a wonderful and positive way.I did an Affirmation for selling my vehicle and a man offered me the exact price that I was affirming. I also enjoy listening to your Random Act of Kindness Section. Thank you for making us aware of Affirmations. Please continue your great work which is much appreciated!
Dear Dr .Evers Thank you for having me on your show. It was such an honor to have spoken with a famous and spiritual person such as yourself. I was nervous at first but you had a way of making me feel comfortable. You are such a gift to the world. I learn so many things from your website. May God bless you richly! Tamara K.
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CONTACT TALK RADIO COLUMN ‘ASK DR. EVERS
Producer of Contract Talk Radio Shows writes . . . Today we are sharing a bit about the basis of Dr. Evers work: Affirmations.
Affirmations Are for Everyone!
What is an Affirmation? An Affirmation is similar to a prayer, wish, or goal-only it is more structured, focused, and specific. It is also an order for change, a decree, or statement. Affirmations are based on positive thinking, belief, and faith. To affirm is to make firm. Simply put, the basis of all Affirmations is positive thinking. The proper use of the Personal Contract Affirmation Method allows you to take control of your life, using the five building blocks.
If you ever had a birthday cake with candles, blown out the candles and made a wish you have done an Affirmation. It is as simple as that!
Here is what Dr. Lee Pulos, PhD, has to say about how this works:
“Since the beginning of recorded history, the power of the word has been acknowledged by mystics and shamans as a pathway to personal transformation. King Solomon acknowledged this by saying, ‘As a man thinketh in his heart, so is he’, and 2,500 years ago, the Buddha said, ‘All that we are — is the result of what we have thought.”
“In modern times we call the power of the word affirmations. These are bursts of electrical energy consciously directed into our brains to create a positive declaration of what we want to become or achieve. Every minute of our walking life we are creating affirmations through our self-talk, at the rate of 150-300 words per minute, or between 45,000 and 51,000 thoughts per day. Positive self-talk has been referred to as nutrition for the mind, like planting flowers in the garden of our subconscious, whereas a negative inner dialogue is analogous to planting weeds. Thus affirmations constitute positive, controlled and directed self-talk which gives focus and impact to one’s plans and goals for personal growth and fulfillment.”
“Dr. Evers in her work provides a comprehensive, easy-to-follow system for transforming destructive or limiting core beliefs through her Personal Contract Affirmation Method.There are two ways of creating our reality-by consciously programming what we want out of life or by simply accepting what comes our way.”
“Both work, but only the former will ensure that you get what you want in life. This book helps put you in charge of your programming and, consequently, firmly in control of your life! As you use Affirmations daily and consistently, you will be breathing life into the future of your dreams. Lee Pulos Author of The Power of Visualization and Mentally Fit Forever.”
Advice from CTR Host & Author Dr. Anne Marie Evers…
ASK DR. EVERS CONTACT TALK RADIO COLUMN
Dear Dr. Evers “My mother is upset because my brother Dave is going to his wife Donna’s mother for Mother’s Day. Mom says she won’t speak to Dave again for a long time. Although I can understand how she feels I tried to tell her that my brother Doug has to be considerate and please Donna as well. I spoke to Dave about it and he was quite annoyed. Now I don’t want this to start serious problems in our family, but I know how terribly stubborn my mother is. She talked to me and kept repeating over and over through her sobbing, “But he is my son, I raised him. Why is Donna’s mother more important than me? What did I ever do to deserve this kind of treatment?”
“Dr. Anne Marie what would you suggest? She has your Affirmations book and reads everything that she can that you have ever written so my last hope is that she may read this and it may help her be a bit more understanding. Thank you so much for all that you do.” Love Stella, worried daughter, Portland, OR
Dear Stella Thank you for your email. And yes I can really see both sides as I have experienced similar situations in my family. And I think most of us parents have experienced disappointments with our grown children at one time or another. I would like to share the following information with you. I received an email from Stephanie as follows. “When my son Dave announced to me that he would be going out of town to spend Mother’s Day with his wife’s (Donna’s) mother, I was taken aback. I did not know what to say as he announced it in front of his wife and the rest of the family.
This was particularly devastating to me at this time as I had just lost my second husband to cancer and I would be spending Mother’s Day alone. All of my relatives live on the West Coast and this is thousands of miles a from where I live on the East Coast. What do I do?
MY SUGGESTION TO STEPHANIE (I hope it will help your situation as well)
To Dave First of all have a talk with your son Dave and tell him how you feel. Here I would use the Sandwich Method (Affirmation Tool) or you may run into some resistance as he is probably already feeling somewhat guilty. I am sure Dave is not doing this to hurt you but also has to live with his wife Donna. The Sandwich Method is as follows–
FIRST SLICE OF BREAD (PRAISE) “Dave you are such a wonderful and caring son and I am so proud of you. I love you and I know you love me.” (One slice of bread) .
INGREDIENT – (the ingredient what you want to take place). “I am rather surprised that you are going to Donna’s mom without talking to me about it. It shocked me and hurt my feelings. So I am wondering if we could celebrate Mother’s Day the week before or the week after? That way it makes me feel that I am important to you as well.”
2ND SLICE OF BREAD (Sandwich) “I also realize that is important to keep your marriage running smoothly and I totally understand that. You have always been such a caring and loving son so I know you will work this out to the good of all.”
By using the Sandwich Method Affirmation Tool you have sandwiched your constructive criticism with praise, which is very different from simply saying, ”Dave you hurt my feelings by going to Donna’s mom place for Mother’s Day. I guess she is more important than me!”
With Love and Affirmation Blessings Dr. Anne Marie Evers
Dear Dr. Evers My husband Brad and I just separated and I am devastated. I thought our marriage was forever. How can I get through the next days, weeks and months? I am 30 years of age. It was very sudden and came as an absolute shock as I thought we were happily married. He said it was not me, but that it was due to the fact that several of his friends are going through serious health challenges. I feel that he is thinking life is short and that he needs to experience other relationships. We married very young. Any advice? Heart broken Val in Everett, WA
Dear Val Thank you for your email. I am very sorry for your situation. This is a tough one because you have spent the last ten years married and you both are still very young. I would suggest that you use The Cup Release Affirmation Tool as follows —-
PROCEDURE Take a cup or mug that belonged to Brad. On masking tape write, ‘My hurt, anger and disappointment about Brad,’ and stick it on the cup. Then fill the cup with water. Sit down and hold it in your hands and visualize all your hurt, anger and disappointment dripping out of your eyes, ears, nose and mouth and going into the water. When you feel that you are complete for this time, take the cup to the sink and dump the water down the drain. Say to yourself, “”Can I ever get that water back?” Of course you cannot and with it has gone a portion of your hurt feelings. It is very important to do this exercise for a minimum of 21 days as it takes 21 days to make a habit. I suggest taking a piece of paper and writing the days (like a calendar) and mark off each day that you do it. If you miss one, start the whole process all over again.
Water represents emotion. When I did this exercise I did not feel any difference until about the 19th or 20th days and then it was as if a large weight had been lifted from my shoulders and I actually started to feel happy again. I know this Affirmation Tool will help you if you do it faithfully for at least 21 days. I would also suggest that you keep on past that time until you feel in your heart that it is time to stop.
With love and Affirmation Blessings Dr. Anne Marie Evers
MONEY TREE AFFIRMATION TOOL
Dear Dr. Evers I have been listening to your wonderful shows over contact talk radio and I am very interested in learning more about the Affirmation Tools that you talk about. I feel it is high time that someone stepped up to the plate and gave us some simple, easy yet powerful tools to use on our journey here on planet earth. Bravo Doctor! Now my question is about one of the Affirmations Tools – THE MONEY TREE. Can it be made of wood or cardboard or does it have to be a live tree?
I live in an apartment and am rather cramped for space. I do like the idea of creating my own Money Tree as it reminds me of all the people that advertise on billboards, hockey games, TV etc. who count on this subliminal type of advertising. We were poor as children and I really want to change my negative programming. Please let me know as soon as possible as I want to get started on it and soon. I do believe it will work for me. Edith Librarian, Everett, WA
Dear Edith I believe that the Money Tree Affirmation Tool can be anything you wish it to be and made of any material. Here use your own awesome imagination. One of my students made a beautiful cardboard tree out of thick cardboard. She bought some artificial leaves and glued them onto the tree. She attached her paper money to it. (In Canada we use loonies for $1 and twoonies for $2). These are like a large coin. We attach them with a clothespin, large clip, etc. Make the surrounding area where your Money Tree is very colorful and fun to look at. Use color as color wakes up and excites your subconscious mind. The color we use for money, career, change, life, etc, is a vibrant green.
And oh yes–remember to sit down and really think of any and All negative thoughts, beliefs, ideas, etc that you may be entertaining about having money. Write them on a piece of paper where you can read them. Then one by one release and let each one go and in their place put a positive statement like, “I love and appreciate money; Money is good; I use my my money wisely and to help others;. Money flows to me in avalanches of abundance.” You see nature abhors a vacuum and rushes in to fill it and could be with more negative thoughts, ideas, etc unless you quickly fill that space with wonderful, uplifting and positive statements. Please get started on your Money tree. You will be glad you did. Read the story of Ranata and her money Tree Experience in my book, Affirmations Your Passport to Happiness available on this website.
with Love and Affirmations Blessings Dr. Anne Marie Evers
Dear Dr. Evers My former boyfriend Doug painted a nude picture of me and hung it in his bedroom. He later broke up with me and moved into another relationship. Now I heard that he put clothes on my nude picture and put it downstairs. I still love him. We are in our 50″s so we are not kids. I feel that he will come back to me and take my picture out of the basement put it back on the wall in his bedroom where I think it belongs. Should i just wait my time until he comes back to me? The woman he is now with is a terrible nag and I don’t think it will last. Please help me. Doris, Sales Clerk, Olympic, WA
Dear Doris Thank you for your email. My advice would not be waiting around until he decides to came back. This is not good medicine for your self-respect not to mention that every person has been given ‘free will and free choice.’—and it is his choice whether or not to come back to you and your relationship. I would encourage your to do the following Master Affirmation.
MASTER AFFIRMATION FOR LOVING, LASTING RELATIONSHIP
“I,, Doris deserve and now have a loving, lasting, happy relationship (which turns into marriage if that is what you desire), with the perfect man for me. (He will not be ‘perfect’ but he will be ‘perfect for you’). We have a wonderful, committed and faithful relationship. We also have similar interests. We live happily together to the good of all parties concerned. Thank you, thank you, thank you.
I fully accept” Signed______________________________________ Dated _______________________________
Dear Dr. Anne Marie My working environment is not very good these days. Everyone is uptight and thinking they will be let go or fired.You can just cut the negative air in our office. Now it is getting to me and I am becoming agitated and starting to feel negative and that I do not want to be there. Many of my co-workers are experiencing the same feelings. Why is it that one or two people can influence so many others? What do you suggest I do? Thomas, Accountant, Vancouver, BC
Thank you for your email. Yes, I receive many emails these days from people who are working in a negative environment due to the lay-offs, cut-backs and general economy. One thing I would suggest you do is to use one of the Affirmation Tools that I share on my radio shows every Saturday (The Dr. Anne Marie Evers Show). One of my readers Andy did the following. Every morning he went to work early and used his Spiritual Disinfectant Spray. What is that you may ask? Well take a small spray bottle and fill it with water. If you wish add some nice smelling essential oils. With masking tape print the words, ‘Spiritual Disinfectant,’ and place it on the spray bottle. Andy would spray the area around his office cubicle and say, “I am spraying negative words and feelings with my Spiritual Disinfectant. It was interesting to note that his colleagues noticed that when Andy was at work things ran rather smoothly and when he was absent challenges arose often. Andy firmly believes that his Spiritual Disinfect and his total belief in it helps keep things running more smoothly in his area of the office. Why not try it? It is cheap, easy and quick and produces fantastic results. Just ask Andy. And oh yes by the way we cannot change others only ourselves. Good Luck
Blessings, Dr. Anne Marie Evers
Dear Dr. Anne
My sister Maria is very controlling. She tries to run my life even though I am married. Whenever she calls she dos not ask me for a favor, etc. she demands it as if I owe it to here. Is there any magic Affirmation to change her? Please help. Helen, Bellingham, WA
Thank you for your email and unfortunately No there is no magic Affirmation to change another person. The only person you can change is yourself. However you can change the way in which you view her. When people do this, many times the other person senses the Chane and changes as well. It is important to allow others to be themselves, even though you do not agree with them. I believe it is not up to use to judge others. and I strongly suggest how important it to to NOT sweat the small stuff.You could do the following Angel Letter Affirmation Tool. (Read more about the Angel Letter Method in my book, Affirmations Your Passport to Happiness available from this website.
Suggested Angel Letter to your Sister Maria
“I love you; I bless you: and I thank you for being kind and loving with me as I am kind and loving with you. I also than you for respecting me and my time as I respect you and your time. Thank you for giving my space to grow, evolve and become as I give you space to do the same. We deserve and now have and enjoy a happy harmonious loving relationship to the good of all. Thank you, thank you, t hank you Love form the Angel of your sister Helen
Love & Blessings, Dr. Anne Marie Evers
Dear Dr. Anne Marie
Well I must say your radio show a couple of Saturdays ago was fabulous and perfect timing for me! The Cup Release Affirmation Tool was exactly what I needed to give me a jump start on forgiveness. I have been furious with my mother or her actions and for divorcing my dad and I was blaming my failed relationships on her. Right after the radio show, I wrote with masking tape the words, ‘My Negative Feelings Regarding my Mother,’ filled it with water and I visualized all my negativity coming out of my eyes, ears, nose and mouth just as you explained and taught on the show. I was amazed. It kept coming and coming. Finally exhausted I said loudly and with great authority, “Stop for Now,” and you know I was totally shocked to find it stopped.I felt good because when I said ‘For now.’ that meant I could go back the next day and do it all over again. I am now on my 7th day and I am still releasing. I am looking forward to completing the 21 day cycle. Oh yes, there have been many tears shed during this process, but I feel they are really forgiving and healing tears.
I have to admit that I really do feel better almost as if I now have HOPE which I feel I did not have much of before doing his exercises. Also the angry, frustrated emotions are draining out of my body and now i am beginning to see my mother in a different light. Gone are those rose-colored glasses and in their place is a realistic image of her emerging. WOW I am so delighted. All I can say is if there is ever anything I can do to help you, please just let me know. With much love and tears of gratefulness. Please keep on teaching these wonderful Affirmation Tools as we ALL need them! Dorothy, Housewife, Marysville, WA
Thank you, thank you, thank you for your email. I am so glad that you are using the Cup Release Affirmation Tool. I have used this one many times and with fantastic and amazing results. I want ot thank you for sharing your experience with us. I think it is wonderful the way you said loud and with authority, “Stop for Now.” I had never thought of doing this and I think it is absolutely brilliant as you gave the command to stop and then added the words ‘for now,’ which you say gave you the option of doing the process over and over. I think it is so important for all of us to practice everyday forgiveness and to have HOPE!
My interpretation of HOPE is
H- Help O- Open P-Peoples’ E-Eyes
Congratulations to you Dorothy and Many Affirmation Blessings, Dr. Anne Marie
Dear Dr. Evers
I just watched a program on Television where this woman, the author of a negative book was being interviewed. She actually said, “Thinking positive is unrealistic and dangerous and that more people should think negative.” I am very confused. Oh by the way she has suffered or is suffering from a liver disease and when people told her to think positive and to think of the lessons she was learning from her disease, it made her very angry. She did not look happy at all during the interview. What do you think? Can we overdo thinking positively? What can I say to make me happier? Love your show over Seattle, Doc. Keep it up! Danny , Bouncer, Seattle, WA
Thank you for your email. Yes, I DO believe in positive thinking and the power of properly done Affirmations–absolutely! With regard to the lady author, I also agree with her that we have to do something more than just thinking positive when faced with health challenges. I suggest that people follow their doctor’s orders, prescriptions, programs, etc and use the Affirmation Process that I teach an an ADDITION TO. Danny look around you, isn’t there enough people thinking and acting negatively? We do not need any more. I do not think we can ever overdo Realistic Positive Thinking. I do feel it is important to be realistic when doing your Affirmations. I suggest that you have approximately a 51% believability factor that what you are affirming can and will manifest as affirmed. I feel that every Master Affirmation must contain the safety clause, which is to the good of all parties concerned and that includes the maker, the person making the Affirmation. The process of doing Affirmations is so powerful that it comes with a warning.
We must never hurt or take from anyone. Every Master Affirmation we make must contain the Safety Clause to the good of all parties concerned.
True happiness comes from within. I believe true happiness is present when you are happy with who you are; what you are doing; and who you are doing it with. I would also suggest you say often during the day the following—“I am whole, strong, loving, harmonious, balanced, healthy, prosperous, powerful and protected.” That just about covers it!
Love and Affirmation Blessings, Dr. Anne Marie Evers
Can you help? I was already overweight before the holidays in 2010 and now I have gained another 10 pounds or more. I am very uncomfortable and unhappy and can’t seem to get started on a weigh reduction program or even think of getting started. My clothes are too tight and I can’t afford to buy new ones. Any magic portion that you can give me that I can do as a jump start? Now my self-esteem and self-worth are at the lowest they have ever been. I think I use sweets and rich food as comfort food, which seems to satisfy me for short periods of time and then I feel worse. Please S.O.S. I need your wise counsel and soon! Debra Hair dresser, Tacoma, WA
I can empathize with you as I experience similar emotions. So now I say to myself, “The next time I will eat differently,” and I do. I think most of us overeat during the holidays as there is always so much delicious food sitting around, just asking to be eaten and that is what is expected of us at parties, dinners, and holiday festivities. Sometimes we eat, after we feel full because it is offered to us and.or handy or that we do not wish to insult our host or hostess However today is a new and wonderful day. There will never be another day just like this one — and what are you going to do with it? Let’s start right now changing our eating habits, exercising and doing our Affirmation Program faithfully. There is a saying, “A few minutes in my mouth; a few hours in my stomach and a lifetime on my hips.” or “Nothing tastes as good as slim feels”. Think about these words. Use the ‘Borrow Back Technique Affirmation Tool. Go back into your mind to a time when you weighed your ideal weight and you felt wonderful about yourself.
Stay there for a few minutes and borrow back that feeling and situation. Then transport yourself in the present taking with you that wonderful image of you weighing your ideal weight and feeling wonderful. You could say, ”Today I am 1% closer to my ideal weight.” Every day I become slimmer and slimmer until I reach my ideal goal weight. I am happy and healthy to the good of all parties concerned. Thank you, thank you, thank you.”
Love and Affirmation Blessings. Dr. Anne Marie Evers
Using The Angel Letter Technique to help drop weight Dear Dr. Evers
I listen with great interest to your radio shows and just LOVE your Affirmation Tools and thank you for teaching them on your show. Also I decided to write an Angel Letter to the Angel of myself and in particular the part of me that craves and eats far too many sweet and rich foods. I wrote an Angel Letter to myself:‘To the Angel of the part of me, whether it be physical or emotional, that craves and loves to eat sweets and rich, gooey food, I love you; I bless you: and I thank you for being good to me all these years.I know why you are doing this and now that I understand why, I will share it with you and then you have the power and you can and will change it. When I was a child I always was rewarded with sweets– chocolate bars, candy, ice-cream and rich gooey desserts. These things became my comfort foods. Now I realize I don’t need these comfort foods any more and I am substituting them with fresh fruits, vegetables, a healthy diet, a walk in the fresh air, daily exercise, drinking lots of water, relaxing and doing my Affirmations regularly. Thank you for obeying my request. Love from the Angel of me.’
Now I don’t really know if is the Angel Letter, my daily Affirmations, the thought that I am finally doing something about this health challenge that I felt was out of control, OR a combination of all of them, but it IS working! This whole month I have not eaten any sweets and most importantly I have not even craved or even wanted ot thought about them. This is truly magical for me and a true miracle! Now my Affirmation (desire/goal) is to keep this up until I reach my goal weight and then introduce some of them back moderately into my diet. Thank you for sharing such incredible insights and giving hope! Jennifer, Store Manager, Tulsa USA
Thank you, thank you, thank you for your email. I am so proud of you and I say keep up the good work and let me know how things are going. I just know your story is and will inspire others to do the same. I must congratulate you on how you say that when you reach your ideal or goal weight you will introduce some of the sweets back into your diet moderately. This statement in itself gives you hope and the knowledge that you are and will be in control of what you eat. And the results prove it. Also when setting weight goals it is important to take into consideration your age, body build, lifestyle, etc. And always add the word, ‘healthy’ to your Weight Dropping Affirmations. Keep up the great work. You may wish to check out my Weight Reduction and Maintenance e-book on this website.
Much love and Affirmation Blessings, Dr. Anne Marie
Using The Angel Letter Affirmation Tool to Men Relationships Dear Dr. Anne
My daughter Laura is grown-up or so I thought. She is 32 years of age and has a ‘mad’ on for me. It was something I strongly advised her to do and she did not agree. She has not spoken to me since last Christmas Day and we usually talk every day. Do you have any tools in your Affirmation Toolbox that could help me? This is really bothering me and actually making me ill. Thank you so much. Love your radio shows and this column! Brenda , Hopeful Mom, Halifax, NS
Thank you for your e-mail. At times it seems that we have a rather challenging role as mothers, and ‘Want to be best friends with our children.One method that I found work for me every time and also for many of my readers is The Angel Letter Affirmation Tool. I write an Angel Letter to the Angel of the family member. The Angel Letter is simply from your Higher Self and/or Angel to the other person;s Higher Self and/or Angel. As there is no judgement, anger or negative emotions present on this Angelic level, these Angel Letters work on a higher level. Sample Angel Letter would be–
“To the Angel of my daughter Laura – I love you; I bless you; and I thank you for communicating with me. Thank you for being considerate of me as i am considerate of you . I really miss your calls, emails and visits and I thank you for getting in touch with me. Thank you for treating me with loving kindness as I treat you with loving kindness Love from the Angel of your Mother, Brenda.” Now date and sign this Angel Letter. It is NEVER given to anyone. Write the original one out very neatly on a recipe card (or paper) and keep this copy in your purse or wallet. Then you scribble the same Angel Letter an additional 14 times to make a total of 15 times. I know sounds like a bit of work, but when you experience the wonderful results you will be glad you did. You can then put the scribbled copies away or destroy them. Do what you feel is right for you. I have used this method writing it 7, 10, 20 times and I find every time writing it 15 times works the best. You see mystics believe the number 15 destroys any hard and or negative thoughts. P.S. You must always be willing to do what you are asking the other person to do,. Please let me know the results.
Love and Affirmation Blessings, Dr. Anne Marie Evers
Dear Dr. Evers
I am writing this email to you at 2:14 a.m. with tears streaming down my cheeks. I am in love with a very much married man Josh I know there is no future in it for me, but how can I stop that feeling of love for him? He works with our company so I see him twice a month. I just live for those visits. We have been having an affair and if my boss knew about it I would be fired. Josh has been honest with me and says he will never leave his wife because of financial reasons surrounding her and the children. I am destroying myself, having trouble sleeping and my self-esteem is in the toilet. What do I do?. Please help Doreen, Supervisor City withheld.
I always teach that everything we do must contain the safety clause, ‘to the good of all parties concerned, ‘ and while I do not wish to judge you, I question whether having an affair with a married man is to the good of all? And I know you do as well or you would not be asking for help. Think about his trusting wife and small children. And what about you and your self-esteem which you say you feel in in the toilet? Don’t you deserve better — that is an unattached man who loves and adores you as you love and adore him? Josh has been upfront about his not leaving his wife and family, although he certainly has not been honest (at least it appears that way). with his wife. I. suggest you write a letter to him saying exactly how you feel. Say everything you need to say, how you feel second choice, being used and not his first priority.
This letter is NEVER mailed or given to him. You see when you write out all your hurts, disappointments etc, it is like you are doing an internal cleansing. You actually see the words on paper and it becomes more real to you (that is the way you feel).This way you have taken your feelings out of the unseen and placed them into the seen by the process of writing them out. Then I suggest you create a Master Affirmation to attract a loving, lasting, healthy, faithful relationship with the perfect , unattached man for you. and then enjoy. And Oh yes, this is the way you get a bonus! (Your self-respect back.)
Many Affirmation Blessings to you, Dr. Anne Marie Evers
Dear Dr. Evers
I know Christmas has passed, but I just had to write to you and tell you what happened. I read your article titled , “64 Tips to have a Happy Christmas, No Matter What’, and I want to share with you what happened. My mother and I were very worried about Christmas Dinner as every year my Uncle Raymond decides to bring up the past and talk about unpleasant things, negative events and how he was mistreated, etc. When I started to read you article I began to laugh out loud and said to my mom, :”Hey, Mom ”Listen up — why not try this one? It is kinda ‘far out’ but what do we have to lose? Now I had my mother’s curiosity and she wanted to read your article. We first (just like you suggested) got a small spray bottled, filled it with scented essential oil (put into the water). We wrote with masking tape the words, ”Spiritual Disinfectant” and placed it on the spray bottle. Then we proceeded to spray every corner of the house and especially the dinner table setting and that area. We spent special time and energy when it came to Uncle Raymond’s chair (where he usually sat for the past 15 years). We said, “We are spraying all and any negative thoughts, words and/or actions and we affirm that this Christmas Dinner be harmonious, loving and happy to the good of all people involved. We kinda forgot about it and went on getting the food prepared for our special Christmas Dinner.
I gasped as I saw Uncle Raymond sit down in a chair across the table and no his usual one. I quickly went over and said to him, “Uncle Raymond here please sit in your special chair you know the one you sit in every year.” He grumbled and said, “I think it is high time that we changed some things around here.” I thought he was disagreeing with me and my heart sank. Then all of a sudden he said, “Aw okay,which one was it again? and sat in his regular chair. I have to say both mom and II kept glancing at each other wondering when the dam was going to burst and the arguing and name calling would start. Well it did not! We have never seen Uncle Raymond so happy and easy to get along with ever before. Why he even complimented Mom on her stuffing. Other members of the family remarked on his much improved state of mind behaviour. Now our question is should we tell other members of the family what we did? We know that some of them would laugh and call us crazy and some may greed. What is your advice? This one great Affirmation Tool that really, really worked and we enjoyed a happy Christmas Dinner. Thanks for the great idea. Sara and Mom Margaret, Halifax. Canada
Dear Sara and Mom Margaret
Thank you, thank you, thank you for your wonderful email. I am so pleased Spiritual Disinfectant Affirmation Tool worked for you and your family. To answer your question —There are two schools of thought here. 1. Keep it a family secret between you both and 2. Tell family members. As for me, I would keep it a secret so as not to embarrass Uncle Raymond, unless it comes up and you are discussing and you can do it discretion. (And I was happy to see that you did add the safety clause ‘to the good of all people involved.)
Love and Affirmation Blessings, Dr. Anne Marie
Dear Dr. Evers
I have been reading your Affirmation books, your writings and listening to your radio show on positive thinking and feel that you will be able to guide me some positive way. I have a problem that I am struggling with. Family members accuse me of favoring one of my daughters. I don’t think I do, but clearly Janie who is 12 is much easier to love than Barbara who is 14. Barbara is always arguing and never can seem to agree with anyone. She challenges almost everything, sort of like she is the Head of the Opposition Party. She is very moody and downright crabby a lot of the time. On the other hand Janie is a happy-go- lucky child who is easy to love and raise. Sometimes I cannot believe Barbara is my child. What to do? Amanda, Supervisor, Windsor, Canada
Thank you for your email and yes, definitely children even with the same parents can be totally different and require quite different methods and ways of learning and child-raising. It may be a good idea to find out if there is some medical and/or emotional issue with Barbara. Once you have taken care of it you can take other positive steps.
One method that worked for me with my daughter Aren who was 14 at the time was as follows. I call it my Family Affirmation Tool. I took her out for Special Mother/Daughter Lunch. I asked her to write out all her gripes and what she would like to see happen in our home and in her life. Boy did this open my eyes! She really did feel that I was not paying enough attention to her and that was a part of the reason she felt she had to act out to get my attention. In her words, “My brother is getting all the attention!” Now that I knew what the challenge was I could and did take steps to repair our relationship. From that day on until she moved out, we had a special monthly Mother/ Daughter Lunch. In your case Amanda I would encourage you to do the process with BOTH your daughters. Another Suggestion that I have is that you create a Master Affirmation as follows –
Master Affirmation for Harmonious Family Relationships (place a picture of your whole family looking healthy and happy)
I affirm that both of my daughters Barbara and Janie deserve and now are healthy,happy, considerate, loving and well-adjusted They grow into caring, loving and understanding young adults. I love and respect both of my daughters as they love and respect each other, their father and I and other family members. We have and enjoy a happy, healthy balanced harmonious family life to the good of all parties concerned. Thank you, thank you, thank you.”
I fully accept Signed __________________________ Dated_____________________________
Rhonda when you place happy, healthy picture of your whole family on your Master Affirmation you are giving your subconscious mind something upon which to focus. Then I would encourage you to post your Master Affirmation on the fridge where everyone can see it often. When you date and sign your Master Affirmation, you have made a firm and binding contract with your Higher Self, God/Creator, Universal Mind or whomever you believe in.
Happy Family Relationships, Dr. Anne Marie Evers
Dear Dr. Anne
I watched the Positive Thinking ’Secret’ Video with my 10 year-old son Kevin. A few days later he came up to me and said, “Mom if I cut out a picture of a bike and look at it like the boy in the Secret movie did, will I get my bike the next day?” I did not know quite how to answer him so I suggested that I write to you and ask you because after all YOU ARE the Affirmation Doctor. He excitedly agreed and is anxiously waiting to read your answer. Please clarify and give us your opinion. Both of us thank you. Kevin and Mommy Beth, Regina, Canada
Dear Kevin and Mommy Beth
Here is my answer for Kevin, “Yes, Kevin that could happen but why not make yourself a part of the process? Cut out a colored picture of the bike you would like, Write under the pictures these words, I Tommy NOW have this type of bike and everyone is happy. I am safe and protected riding my bike, Thank you! Now you need to ‘blot breath in that Affirmation by taking action. I would suggest that you start saving up your allowance. When your birthday or Christmas rolls around tell family members that you are saving up for this particular bike. Share your picture and writing with them. You can do small extra chores around the house. With your parent’s permission you could offer to do small jobs for neighbors in your area. Think about riding your brand new bike; how it steers; how safe you feel; how bright it is; how proud you feel and how shinny it is. Keep that picture vividly in your mind
To Mom Here we do not wish to question Kevin’s belief and faith that he could get the bike like the boy in the movie got from his grandfather, but we also need to be truthful and realistic. Otherwise Kevin could find himself quite disappointed. Having him join in, save his money and be a part of the whole equation teaches him other important life lessons. And yes, certainly we need to ‘blow breath’ into our Affirmations by taking the appropriate action.
Much Love, Happy Affirming and Safe Happy Riding, Dr. Anne Marie Evers
Dear Dr. Anne
I have just been laid off from my job of twenty-five years. I am devastated. I have a family to support and bills to pay and I am not sure which way to turn or what to do next. I think I am still in a state of shock. My wife, Beth is still working and we hope that her job will last. We have two sons 9 and 11. My two boys have been listening to the news and I am sure have overheard Beth and I talking about the employment situation. At the last Teacher/Parent Conference regarding my 11 year old son Devon his teacher said that his grades are slipping as he seems to be worried or pre-occupied about something. Now it is not only affecting me, it is affecting my son. Any suggestions for me and for my family? Rob, Retail Manager of Large Corporation, Detroit, Mi
Thank you for your email and I truly can empathize with you and your situation. Here there are several things I would like to address – First of all if you are laid off, that situation is certainly NOT your fault. And I suspect other colleagues are also in the same boat or will be in danger of also being laid off. Rob you are certainly not alone. I receive numerous emails from readers and listeners that are facing similar challenges. Some even report that both the ‘bread winners’ were laid off within months of each other. This is clearly due to the negative financial situation in the world, the many companies (large and small) that are cutting back on their expenses, employees, etc.. You are in a place in your life at this particular time where it is very difficult not to panic. I would suggest that you do the usual and obvious. . . . . . . .
Now that this door of employment is closed, start preparing for another door of employment to open for you. (a) (And I know this one may take a little doing). Look at and start counting your blessings (even if you don’t feel blessed at this time) you do have two wonderful young sons and a loving wife that is still employed, etc. In other words Rob I am encouraging you to mentally accept the worst – You have lost your job. Once you have accepted it mentally, then IMMEDIATELY start doing things to improve upon the situation. (a) Really think about it — what type of position would you like to have; (b) Prepare a great Resume. (Make it a little different so it will stand out), with Letters of Testimonial and start today sending them out and/or where possible delivering them in person; (c) Tell family, friends and acquaintances what type of work you are looking for;
About the Family
I encourage you to call a family meeting and speak about what is happening in your lives. Children also need to know some of the information (of course not to have them worry or be concerned about paying bills,e etc), but so they can also help in cutting down on expenses. Of course at 9 and11 they are too young to get a job, but they can do small jobs around the house, or helping friends and neighbors. And speak with Devon especially asking him if he is worried about money, etc. Open the door for him to talk and then it does not seem so hopeless and worrisome for him. When you share (certain ) information with your sons, especially Devon it makes them realize that the family are united and will work as a team (and in some cases if becomes a wonderful game that teaches them many lessons, so you could say, ’A blessings in disguise.’
When my husband I went through bankruptcy we had a family meeting . My children were 8 and 12 and looking back I am glad we did share some of the information with them. It made them understand why we could not purchase all that expensive ski equipment, hockey gear, etc. So they got busy and did odd jobs and saved their money and then they bought some of their own things. It was a good learning experience for them and the whole family. certainly not one that we wanted, welcomed or particularly enjoyed, but it did teach us some very important lessons. My son said to me the other day. “Hey Mom do you remember when we had those money problems many years ago? Now that my wife and I have been facing some financial challenges, we are putting into effect some of what I learned then and boy is it working! Even better that either one of us ever dreamed.” Rob I would suggest that you do the following Master Affirmation after you have decided exactly what you want to do in your career. Remember that when one door closes, another one opens and I believe this is true for you.
Sample Master Affirmation for Career & Family
“I, Rob ________ deserve and now have the perfect, lasting, successful career (or position) for me where I receive in excess of $ _______________ (put the exact amount you desire here) Make certain that you specify monthly or yearly; net or gross. My employers value appreciate and respect my excellent work and reward me accordingly. I enjoy harmonious and healthy work relationships and conditions. Beth, our two sons and I now enjoy a healthy, happy, united and prosperous relationship. We are all happy and fulfilled to the good of all parties concerned. Thank you ,thank you, thank you.”
I fully accept Signed ________________________ Dated _____________________________
When you date and sign this Master Affirmation you have made a firm and binding contract with your Higher Self, God/Creator, Universal Mind or whomever you believe in. Please keep me posted.
Blessings, Dr. Anne Marie Evers
Dear Dr. Evers
How can I get my husband Don to pick up his clothes when he comes home from work? He thinks all the household duties are mine and MINE ALONE I don’t think this is fair as I hold a full time job and manage to take care of two children, without any help from him. When I ask him (he calls it nagging) he gets mad and leaves the house. He says I am a constant nagger and it is getting on his nerves. What about my nerves? You know I feel like I have only one nerve left and he is stepping on it! Any ideas to help my situation? Heather, Kelowna, BC
Thank you for your email. I know many men call me and/or email me telling me about how their wives, and significant others are nagging them. Well if repeating a statement over and over is called nagging, then I guess we all do it. and they could be right! I would suggest you implement the good ole Sandwich Affirmation Tool. This is where you put into a sandwich what you wish the other person to do.
One Slice of Praise, “Don I know you work very hard and the challenges you have at work. And I know you do your job to support the kids and I and when you come home you are tired. You are so important to our family”. Ingredient - (what you want him to do) “It would be so nice if you would help me just a little around the house by picking up after yourself.” 2nd Slice of Praise “And I know you want to do that as you are such a great husband and dad!”
This way our are sandwiching your criticism with praise and it would be hard to get angry (or call it nagging) when you put it that way. Isn’t it better than saying, “Don you are so lazy. I work so hard to keep this house clean and the least you could do is pick up after yourself?”Please let me know the results after you use this simple, proven Affirmation Tool.
Affirmation Blessings and Happy Affirming everyone! Dr. Anne Marie Evers